Anonymous asks :
Hello Lucy,
I'm having problems keeping myself organised recently, this has had an effect on my bond with my family, I'd like to show them that I'm trying to change but they always bring up past things, what can I do?
Hi Anonymous,
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Some people are naturally organised and remember things, others need tools to help them do this. If you struggle to keep organised, then I would suggest keeping a diary with all your appointments in. As soon as an event comes up- write it in your diary straight away so you don't forget.
If you struggle to remember what to do on a day to day basis- make a list the night before or first thing that morning, so you can work through it and check things off. If you keep a notebook on your person, you can add things to your list throughout the day. It doesn't matter how minute it may seem- put it down- you are the only one who is going to be looking at the list anyway. It might also help you to put the tasks in order of priority, so you can get the most important things out the way first. If you prefer- you could use your phone to do this.
Something else that could help you is to get everything you need for the next day ready the night before. There is nothing worse than rushing in the morning, so perhaps sort out your bag, outfit, keys, lunch etc. before you go to sleep, then you can rest easy knowing that the next morning should run like clockwork.
One way they might stop bringing up the past is to show your family that you can be organised if you put your mind to it or at least that you're trying.
Remember that learning these new habits may take a while and it will take dedication from you to keep them going, but after a while, it will hopefully reach a point where it feels like second nature.
We all have habits that our families tease us about, just as they might talk about your lack of organisation, you might discuss something that another family member struggles with. It is a normal process, however if you believe they are being unfair, then it might help to be honest with them and tell them how their fixation on this one thing is making you feel.
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