Little Miss Lost asks :
Hi Lucy,
I have been with my partner almost five years. I turn 21 at the end of this year. I love him but don't feel in love with him anymore. We have had lots of problems and still do but even when we are getting on whilst I enjoy his company I feel like the spark has gone. We have quite a settled routine and I am bored. He has his hobby and that’s all he wants to do. He is a lovely guy and he has supported me through a lot. I don't want to hurt him. We do some great things and his family are wonderful but I do feel like even though I will be on my own I'm ready to move on. What should I do? :(
Hello Little Miss Lost,
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The biggest fear a lot of people have is being on their own after a break up, however it sounds like it’s something you are ready for and not too concerned about.
It doesn’t seem like you want to make a go of things here, so perhaps you just need to bite the bullet and do it. If you don’t love him, have constant problems, no spark and an overbearing hobby to deal with perhaps there is little left for you that’s positive in the relationship other than his family. It might not be the best idea to stay with him just because you get on with his folks.
If he has supported you, then you are not taking that away from him for its sounds like you will always be grateful for it, however perhaps you can support each other as friends instead. If you are feeling like this then maybe he is having similar thoughts. You won’t know however until you talk to him about it. You might find that it’s easier than you are anticipating it to be.
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