Tammi asks :
Hi Lucy,
My boyfriend’s dad is an alcoholic and rings ambulances out for fun so they are at his house 24/7. His mum’s kidney is failing at 11% with there not being enough time to wait for one. With him being the only match in the family he’s feeling the pressure. What can I do to help him?
Hi Tammi,
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Perhaps all you can do right now is be there for him and listen to him when he needs to talk.
This is understandably a very emotional time for him and he is likely experiencing lots of conflicted feelings. You say he is feeling lots of ‘pressure’, so perhaps don’t give your opinion on the matter unless he asks for it, or this could push him away if he feels that everyone in his life is trying to make decisions for him.
If his dad is not taking much responsibility right now he may feel that he has to adopt the role for his mum’s sake, so anything you could do to lighten his load might help. Perhaps help him out with little things around the house for instance, while he is dealing with the much bigger issues.
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