Sharon asks :

Hi Lucy,

How do I cope with seeing my ex with his new girlfriend and not show him that it hurts seeing them together?

Hi Sharon,

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Agony Aunts on Female First

The best advice I can give you is to try and accept the reasons why it didn’t work and use that for your next relationship to figure out what you want and what you don’t.

Try to get on with your life without him and enjoy being single. You could make some plans with your friends and family, get a hobby, make sure your schedule is packed full of fun things to do and with the people you love who make you feel good about yourself.

A lot of break ups are about getting out of habits formed with your ex as it can make you dwell on not being together anymore. So, if you make new habits and do new things then you don’t have to think about what you used to do.

Maybe try to channel your energies into you right now if all you have thought about for a while is him and you as a couple. Perhaps what you need now is some ‘me’ time. That way, you should not have to try and show them that you are ok, you just will be! 


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