Lottie asks :
Hi Lucy,
How do I get back in touch with a guy I like who I stopped talking to a while ago? Awkwardly when I had only just broke up with my boyfriend I met a really great guy on a night out. I feel we both got on quite well when we first met. The next day we sent each other texts and his last text to me said it was lovely meeting me and do I want to meet up sometime? I never spoke to him again. I think I panicked that if we did meet up he might have wanted to actually go out with me and at the time it felt too soon after my break up. This was 5 months ago though so I feel kind of awkward and really don't know what to say since in his head he just thinks I ignored him. He might think it’s a bit out of the blue too?
Hi Lottie,
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I would suggest that honesty could be your best policy here. You didn't contact him for legitimate reasons- if you text him out of the blue or make up a lie chances are he will see straight through it. Try not to lay it on too heavy, but a short explanation for why you held back texting him and an apology might go a long way. If he doesn't accept your apology then you know that perhaps he is not for you and he bears grudges easily.
Men like honesty, but most men and women prefer not to go out with a person who still has baggage from their last relationship. If you are sure you are ready then it might be worth dropping him a text and see where it goes. If not then try to make efforts to get yourself back to being happy as a single woman and then think about guys afterwards. The last thing you might need is to get mixed up with another guy when you are still healing from the last one.
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