Hi Nicole,

Could you arrange a meeting with you all and talk about how much you miss each other- if you and your children feel the same way-this might have more of an impact than if one of you tells him the same. It might jolt him into making more time for you all.

Although it sounds like getting back together might not be an option if he is living with another women, there is nothing wrong with still trying to make time for you all, as you are still a family.

Why not suggest more regular meetings together- a day once a week or every two weeks where you do the things you enjoy doing together- bowling, cinema, walking, going to a theme park- anything that is a lot of fun so you can enjoy time with one another. Although it might not exactly the same as it was- at least you can put your differences aside and all try to get along for that time in each other’s company, while working together on an activity.

If you are feeling isolated then maybe looking for a hobby might help, or start looking for another man to spend your time with, who also wants to spend time with your kids too. If your focus is shifted to your future- then you might think less about your break up and the past, enjoy the time you have with your ex, but also enjoy a new relationship as well.