Hi Nikita,

Break ups are a lot about the company you miss and the habits you were in with your partner. So to get over a break up, perhaps focus on making new habits and spending your time in new ways that you enjoy and maybe sacrificed when you were together.

It could be a new hobby, seeing your friends more, joining a club, spending time with your family, anything to start your new life a fresh and spend time with people who make you feel good.

It is important to recognise what has happened and why. Look at reasons why it didn’t work between you and channel that into what you want from a new man. You are in a better position than you were- it may not seem like it now, but you can take this experience and find out what suits you and what doesn’t to make your next relationship even better.

Try not to over analyse things and think about your break up all the time as this can be self-destructive and will only make you feel worse. Relationship break downs are about both of you not just one, so whatever went wrong was because of a lack of compatibility between you both. He might have initiated the break up- but try not to blame yourself or him entirely. Placing blame on someone else only makes you feel better for a little while. The biggest person is one who can accept their shortcomings in a failed relationship as well as their ex's.

If he is seeing someone- then he has perhaps moved on faster than you. Rushing into another relationship is not always the answer- evaluating your last one before you take the next step is sometimes a wiser move.