Jessica asks :
Last week I met this guy in a club; he approached me, asked my name, bought me a drink etc. He was very attractive and lovely to talk to, we danced and then kissed. We went back to mine and spent the night and next morning in bed together. I walked him back to his bus stop and as I left he promised he'd text me. All through the night he'd been saying things like, "next time we meet" and "don't worry, you'll get used to this after we've done it a few times", and when I asked him if he thought this could be a long-term relationship he said "yes, I hope it will." But of course, it's a week later and he still hasn't texted. How long should I wait for him to contact me? Should I contact him? Did he actually want a relationship or am I just being naive? If he'd been just alright it wouldn't matter, but as it was he was really attractive, gentle, sweet, and we talked for hours and got on really well. It would be a shame if I never saw him again. What should I do? Please help. Thank you! x
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It sounds like he might have been saying those things to sleep with you. Men and women can be very manipulative when sex is on the table and say whatever it takes to get someone to sleep with them. If he really wanted to pursue this further then he probably would have contacted you by now. I would suggest that you move on and find someone else. There will be others out there that embody all of these characteristics and looks that want something more with you.
The fact is; if he never contacted you, despite all of his appealing qualities, they mean nothing if he can’t make the effort to meet up with you again. Contacting him could reveal some very good reason for not getting in touch with you but the likelihood is you might be disappointed.
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