millie asks :

i got pressured into doing something with a guy not sex though but my mum found out i tried to explan what happened but she wasn't listened she hates me and my mum and dad won't talk to me i don't know what to do any ideas i have tried everything

Yin replies

An older man: Whatever it was that you were forced into doing, if it is sexual contact from an older man, then this is a criminal offence on his part. They are most likely not angry with you but the man that forced you into doing the act. You need to step forward and call the police if this man is older than you, as this is a case of sexual abuse and possible grooming. Make a note of any information you have on him and tell them everything you know.

Yang replies

A man your age: The fact is you are still young and underage to be having any sort of sexual contact with anyone, even if they were your age, so they will be in shock that it has even happened. They will talk to you again, there is no doubt of this, but this is a big thing for a parent to accept and act on, when you are so young, so give it time.

 

If you want to talk to someone about what has happened if you feel that the time is not right or your parents wont listen yet then you can call any of the following charities who will talk to you about what has happened:

 

The Lucy Faithful Foundation: http://www.lucyfaithfull.org/

Step Up Charity: http://stepupcharity.org.uk/

Barnados:http://www.barnardos.org.uk/what_we_do/our_projects/sexual_abuse.htm

Mind: http://www.mind.org.uk/mental_health_a-z/8036_abuse

Feel free to write back in to me too if you have any more concerns.


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