MRS OR MISS? asks :
how can i choose between my heart and my head? im a 20 odd year old ,married with child.i am severly tempted by someone who is 4 years younger than me,we have been getting a lot closer lately..how do i choose between keeping a happy family (and and ok me) or choosing to have a happy me and changing the life of my family. i know what i should do for the sake of others but would it be right for me, im realy confused .HELP!!
Yin replies
You need to figure out why you want this man. Are you simply sexually attracted to him? Do you feel you could fall in love with him? Is he better company than your current partner right now? We all look and think that the grass could be greener, but it is important to figure out why it looks better over there. Usually it is because our relationship is lacking in the areas that the new person could bring. Have you worked on things with your husband in the areas you are not happy with? It may be that you should concentrate on trying to make it work between you and your partner first before disrupting your family unit.
Yang replies
You should be happy in what you do and who you are with, so if you feel you have tried everything you can then perhaps try thinking how this can be done with minimal disruption to your child’s wellbeing. Nasty breaks ups can hurt children for a long time so approach this with caution. If you have been unhappy for a while chances are your partner has been too, so this may not come as a surprise if you have both tried everything you can to make it work. Whatever you do, going behind you partners back is the worst idea so if you do decide to leave, wait until you have to start anything up or this will only cause pain where it is not needed.
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