Emma asks :
Hi Lucy,
I read my boyfriend’s texts a few weeks ago and found that he had been texting another woman. I also found a few days ago that he has been messaging many women throughout our 8 month relationship. He said he is sorry and made a mistake, but can I trust him?
Hi Emma,
What was the nature of the messages? If they were banter then it might just have been two friends exchanging lighthearted texts. If they were flirty- then he has apologized and presumably you have told him that they make you uncomfortable, so he knows that by doing it again- it might rock your relationship.
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He might have assumed that it was ok to do this- however without any boundaries set at the beginning of your relationship then this perhaps left possible lines to be crossed.
Have you asked him why he felt the need to send them? Have you asked him how he might feel if you were doing the same and he didn’t know about it?
The trust may be compromised for a little while, until you have talked it through, however it could be regained if you are both willing to work at trying to get it back.
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