Kym asks :
Hi Lucy,
I’ve been talking to a guy online for a bit he is into his weights every night and I am slightly overweight. He has seen pics and says he still wants to meet me but just before we were meant to meet a guy at the gym dropped a weight on his foot and meant to have broken two of his toes. I am so confused as I do like him, but not sure if he likes me- he says he does but I'm not sure. Please help.
Hi Kym,
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It all depends on how comfortable you are with this guy- perhaps you could ask to see a pic of his toes- if you don't feel fazed by that sort of thing. If he were to send you one then this might be the proof you are looking for. If this is the case then perhaps you can make another commitment once his toes have healed- if he has read up on it or had medical attention, then he should be able to make a plan based on his healing time.
Has he made plans before and cancelled them? If so then maybe he is just nervous or indecisive. Looks can be deceiving- one might assume that because he is into his weights that he is confident about his looks- however he might have decided to go to the gym because of some insecurities he had about his body and using it as a means of giving him a boost.
Perhaps you feel a little insecure about your weight and that is making you assume the worst- you might be self-conscious about being slightly overweight, something which he may not even notice. We are our harshest critics.
All that said; if you already doubt him- then this may not be a good sign. If you think he has lied to you and you find out it's true, then this isn't the best footing to get off on for a future relationship. Perhaps you just need to decide if he is worth giving the benefit of the doubt before making your final decision.
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