Hi Matt,

It sounds like this could be confusing- when she is telling you about her strong feelings for you but not showing you with her actions.

I presume that you have been online dating or met on a forum? It might be that she has not been completely honest about something on her profile. A few people use this method of dating to mask something that they are not very confident about- their appearance or their occupation for instance.

Perhaps try to be supportive and reassure her that you want to meet for a reason and that you understand if she has exaggerated something or held something back. It’s tempting to online and can get out of hand the longer it goes on, but it's forgivable and salvageable if you both care about one another. If you are able to do this then she might feel in a position to meet up with you or at least be more honest with you.

It might simply be nerves. If she has not dated anyone before- then she might just be putting it off because she is afraid of meeting up with you in person and what she might say or how she might act. Again- being as patient and considerate as you can should help this- perhaps tell her how you are feeling about meeting up- if she thinks that you are going through the same then it could persuade her to change her mind as you are both in the same boat.