Sally asks :
Hi Lucy,
My boyfriend cheated on me at a festival a few weeks back. He only admitted it eventually after he had been caught out by a friend of mine. After giving it a lot of thought I decided I would give him another chance. These last few nights I’ve been having dreams about him cheating and it's getting me down, what can I do?
Hi Sally,
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It's understandable that you have had and probably will have dreams about him cheating as it's playing on your mind. If you don't talk to someone about your fears of him cheating again it will manifest itself in other ways.
It sounds like you are afraid of him doing this again if you are dreaming about it- so perhaps you need to look more closely at why you took him back. Are you afraid of being alone? Do you like the idea of being in a relationship? Do you love him despite his error in judgement? Whatever your motivations, perhaps you need to weigh them against your trust for him. Trust is one of the most important factors in any relationship- do you feel you can trust him again?
It seems that your partner would not have told you what happened if it had not been for your friend. If this was to happen again then you may never find out unless someone else catches him red handed.
Was he sorry for what he did? Do you truly believe he is a reformed character? If not then perhaps you need to reverse your decision to be together again and find someone who you don't have to give a second chance to.
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