Beth asks :
Hi Lucy,
I recently took a break from my boyfriend of a year and a half. We realised things were working out great, so we decided to take our separate ways and still remain friends. He recently told me that he’s met someone else on a night out and I was fine with this, now he's told me she could possibly be pregnant, I was starting to fall for him again, he said he was falling for me too, and he doesn't want this pregnancy to become true. I'm just struggling what to think.
Our Reply
Hi Beth,
If he has met someone else, take the pregnancy out of the equation, it sounds like he was ready to move on. The pregnancy might have frightened him because it sounds like he is not ready for it. He might have said he was falling for you again because being with you is familiar and comfortable- being with her could present new challenges.
What did you break up over? Chances are if you get back together whatever was the cause could come back. If you are both not committed 100% to trying to make another go of things then you might find yourself going down the same path again. You say that being apart was working our great- what has changed? Could it be seeing him with someone else and you are jealous? Could it be that he is potentially making a bigger commitment with this girl than he did with you? Whatever the reason for your change of heart- think about potentials in the future. If this girl is pregnant and he leaves her for you- how would the three of you operate to ensure that the baby has two parents to grow up with? Might he feel differently once the baby is born, if she is pregnant?
You both have already had a knockback once- so could you cope with trying to get your relationship back on track as well as all the new responsibilities that are possibly coming his way?
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