Sv asks :
Hi Lucy,
I can't cope with the baby; she wakes every 3 hours at night. I don't know what to do with her in the day. I feel guilty; my 3 month old is bored I try and play with her but I'm just so tied I'm constantly paranoid something bad will happen to her. I even got to the point I bought a sleep monitor for her. My parents and friends live a long way from me and my partner works long hours. I'm so tired I can't go to mother and baby classes as I feel I have no confidence and feel baby I will just cry anyway.
Hi SV,
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Could you ask you partner to look into getting you some help? Maybe another pair of hands might help you to manage- like a child-minder for a few hours each day. It sounds like you are doing the best by your children but you are lacking in any kind of help or break from being a mum to recharge your batteries.
Does your partner know that you are struggling? He may work long hours, however he should still offer a listening ear when you need it. Maybe you can come up with a plan, such as reducing his hours to help you out or asking your friends and family to come and visit you, or take your children to see your family once a month to give you some time out.
Although it may seem like a daunting thing to do; that is what mother and baby classes are there for, to help you though all your worries of being a new mum. That way you can share your issues with other new mums who will undoubtedly be feeling the same as you are right now. Perhaps all you need is someone to tell you that what you are experiencing is not unusual and take some advice from those who have been there and done it and found way to manage. There are activities provided there too, so if you think that she is bored then maybe it will help you to come up with new things you can do together.
There are many places online for you to visits who provide support for new mums such as:
www.netmums.com
www.webmd.boots.com
www.thespark.co.uk
Maybe you could take a look at some of these and find one that suits you best.
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