Hi Meg,

If you are still sleeping together on some level it might seem like you are still together. You are still getting the affection that might be lacking for a while after a break up and it might hurt less in the meantime.

Perhaps think about how much respect you have for yourself. If you know that you are a ‘booty call’ and that he is just ‘using you’ then it might be time to make the decision to cut all sexual contact.

It might be good while it happens but you have already admitted to feeling ‘jealous’ of the other women he is seeing. It could be difficult to begin with, however in the long term you might feel better about stopping the arrangement you have right now. It sounds like you are regretting it once it happens so there seems to be a very small window of time when you feel good about this.

It is perhaps time to take charge and stop adhering to what he wants. If what you want is fidelity, then it seems like he is not the guy for you. If you don’t want to just be a booty call- then perhaps looking for someone else who sees you as more than this might be the way to go here.

If you carry on the way you are then you might find yourself in an unending circle of events- sleeping with him- feeling jealous- regretful and then sleeping with him again to try and forget.

Maybe if you break the circle, you might find yourself in a happier place.