Namrata asks :
Hi Lucy,
Ok there is this guy- we used to work together and we had great friendship. On Saturday I text him all do best for his match- he didn't reply. I thought he was avoiding me so I maintained silence then on Monday, he sent me a pic of his medal. I replied to him and as usual he didn’t reply. What’s the matter with him? I can’t understand please give me a solution as what to do.
Hi Namrata,
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Text message frequency is an unreliable way of analysing your friendship with someone. He may have been busy before and after his match to reply to your message and was catching up on his texts on Monday. It might be nothing personal- just that he needed Sunday to rest. Some people check their phone less than others and it can be difficult when you are the one who is regularly on your phone when the person you are trying to contact isn't. So many assumptions can be made when you only have a few words or pictures, or nothing at all to go off.
If you are no longer working together it might be hard to maintain as close a friendship as before if you are not being placed together through rota similarities etc.
Perhaps ask to meet up with him rather than just exchanging texts? He may be a better friend to you in person rather than over exchanged messages.
If he keeps cancelling or putting it off then perhaps he isn't as good a friend as you once thought. However if you meet up and it is like you were never apart, then maybe you could meet up on a regular basis to catch up rather than waiting for his next text message.
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