Alice asks :
Hi Lucy,
I am 23 and I have been with my boyfriend for nearly four years now. For the past year we have been living together, our tenancy is due to end in a month and he wants to move in with his friends. I feel like instead of going forward in our relationship this is going ten steps back? I would never stop him doing what he wanted to do but I don't want to move out and I can't help but feel that our relationship wouldn't be as strong and I would eventually lose him. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you.
Hi Amy,
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I would first ask why he is doing this? If he is moving in with other people to save the money up for a deposit for a mortgage then maybe it will help him put some savings aside for you future. If he is struggling to pay his way in the house you are currently in, then maybe this will ease the burden a little and he can live his life with a bit more flexibility once he is paid.
Without explanation it might seem that he wants to take a step back rather than forward so it's definitely worth a conversation so you know if you both plan live alone again or not.
Tell him your concerns and find out if he feels the same as you- he may not have realised how much his plans have made you question your relationship.
If you are going to live apart then it sounds like you need some reassurances from him that it's not a permanent arrangement with his friends.
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