Louise asks :
Hi Lucy,
I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and a half, we live together and I'm very happy. I'm recently finding that my sex drive is on the low and I don't really get as hyped up as I was when I was younger. I think my pill could be something to do with it as it's changed from when I was younger but i don't know what's wrong me. It's really starting to bug me and worry me. What can I do to sort this out?
Hi Louise,
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If you think it’s your pill, then perhaps make a trip to your doctor and tell them the symptoms you have been getting and ask if you can change to a different one.
Unfortunately with the pill, it is bit of trial and error, as it is hard to predict how each individual woman will react- so maybe it’s time to take a look at a different type. This coupled with the fact that you are older now, might have had an effect as your body changes over time; it might react differently to any medication that you take compared to when you were young.
Perhaps if you have been together for a while, your love life has become a little samey and is not giving you the incentive to have sex. Maybe consider some sex toys, dressing up, role play- something other than your usual routine to make sex something you crave again.
Take close look at your life could you be stressed at work? Is there anything else that is bothering you in your relationship? Do you take any other medication? All of these factors can contribute to a loss of libido, so maybe it would help to spend a little time thinking about the other areas of your life that could be causing you to feel like this. Perhaps the stress of this is becoming vicious cycle and making it hard to break- so if you see your GP as soon as possible then it might help you to reach your goal quicker.
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