Anonymous asks :

Hi Lucy,

My boyfriend and I argued when I put a picture of him up on Instagram because he said he doesn't like me doing that. I don't understand why he has an issue with this, I know he isn't cheating on me so isn't worried about who sees it in that sense but I also don't understand why he doesn't like it. also, he never puts pictures of us two up on Instagram which makes me feel less special than he is to me.

 

 

Hi Anonymous,

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Agony Aunts on Female First

Some people are just more select than others about what they post on social media- it's not necessarily reflection of how much he thinks about you and your relationship but more a personal preference. If he is the same with Facebook then he may like to keep his private life private.

Some people prefer not to appear at all on social media or like to see the pictures beforehand to approve their posting.

There is so much pressure put on relationships now to go public, however it doesn't need to be the case. As long as behind the scenes you are a happy couple- that should be all that matters- you don't need to prove it to anyone with pictures of you both looking happy together.

Posting a picture is not going to make your pairing any better- it's more for other people than it is for you both anyway.

If he is really against this then I would stop posting pictures of you both or it will only cause more arguments. If you want to have more pictures together then why not keep them to yourself in a folder on your computer or on your phone so you have these visual memories of your relationship for you both to enjoy in private?


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