The end of a long-term relationship ship can leave us reeling and searching for a way to cope. Here are the top 10 reasons why it feels like we will never get over the end of our relationship.

Sara Davison

Sara Davison

  1. Break-ups are often referred to as the 2nd most traumatic experience after the death of a loved one. It's a huge life-changing event and will have trigger emotional and practical challenges for you to cope with.
  2. Breaking up with someone you have been co-dependent on for a long time can leave you feeling lost and helpless. There will be a gap in your life until you learn to how to fill it.
  3. Your confidence is low especially if your partner cheated on you. When you have low self-esteem it can be tricky to see a light at the end of the tunnel.
  4. Heartbreak actually feels like an exquisite and real physical pain even though it isn't. There is no medicine you can take to ease the pain.
  5. Break-ups have a huge ripple affect across your whole life and can impact negatively on other areas such as your work life as well as your social life and parenting abilities.
  6. Your stress levels will rise which can affect your sleep too. This will make you less able to think clearly or make good decisions about your future.
  7. You will have to make many adjustments to your daily routine and find ways to do things that you ex used to do for you. This takes time for it to become routine again without them.
  8. Festive events, birthdays and traditional family events can prolong the pain as it brings back memories of your ex.
  9. Some friendships can be rocked by your break-up and you may lose some friends in the split. This can cause more upset for you to navigate your way through at a time when you are already feeling vulnerable and upset.
  10. After a break-up its normal to grieve the end of your relationship. Crying and feeling sad are both part of letting go although without a plan for the future it can seem like it will never end.

However it's not all doom and gloom as there are things you can do to speed up your recovery process. I have developed a tool kit of techniques and strategies that you can use to help you cope better with both the emotional and practical challenges you will face after a break-up. Whilst sadly there is no magic wand to take away all the pain they will definitely speed up your recovery process.

Remember it's not what happens to you that defines you as a person, it's what you do about it that counts.

Sara Davison is an expert break-up, separation and divorce coach who developed the UK's first Divorce Coaching program which provides individuals with the tools, techniques and advice needed to help individuals navigate and better cope with the process of divorce.

Book yourself on her next break-up Retreat via her website http://saradavison.com/break-up-recovery-retreat/ . Sara's latest book "Uncoupling" is released on 1st September 2016, pre-order your copy now https://www.amazon.co.uk/Uncoupling-survive-thrive-breakup-divorce/dp/0349411484

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