Emily asks :
I've liked a boy for 3 years and I want to ask him out but I'm too shy. We are on speaking terms and we talk quite often but only as friends. I also know he used to like me, but I'm not sure if he still does. Help....?
Yin replies
The only way you will find out is to ask. I know it’s daunting but you will not rest until you know either way, it has been a long time. You owe it to yourself to find out! If he used to like you then you already have an advantage because he is probably thinking the same thing!
Why not make more of an effort to meet up and talk? The more familiar you are when you get together, the easier it will be to ask him or for him to ask you out. If you ask him out on your own as friends that will set off alarms bells, because it’s almost a date, if you both feel comfortable enough on the night out or afterwards then it will lead to more time alone on more ‘dates’. Eventually the nervousness of being alone will have gone and you might feel less shy around him!
Yang replies
Why not try getting a bit flirty when you do talk to him to let him know that you are interested! A winking face or a few kisses at the end of text or Facebook message can go a long way! People are more forthcoming on texts too because the pressure if off a little bit.
If he says no, then you will be able to move on with your life and find someone new. It’s better to know where you stand!
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