Kate asks :
Hello. My best friend has been with her new boyfriend for 3 months and they are literally inseparable, staying at each other's house every week night and weekends aswell, and I never get to see her anymore. I don't have a problem with them being together, or obviously seeing each other, but it gets a bit too much when we've been best friends since for about 12 years, and she's only really known him since December, and that I don't even get a chance to do anything with her anymore cos she's already got plans. I've discussed this with her, but I don't think she really realises how much time she actually spends with her boyfriend, compared to how little time she spends with me and her other friends. I don't know what to do about this?
Yin / Tyler
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Lucy says:
This is inevitable, in any new relationship unfortunately that during the honeymoon period friends and family get left out. She is consumed by a feeling that will not wear off in a while to the detriment of everyone else. Try to be there for her when she does make time for you and ride it out. You telling her that she is not spending time with you will fall on deaf ears as her priority lies with him right now. The important thing to remember is that this will pass, it all boils down to how long you can wait and how strong your friendship is.
Yang / Lydia
Cameron says:
You’re going to have to wait this one out I’m afraid. Friends of mine have literally disappeared for weeks thanks to a new squeeze, but eventually were forced to come up for oxygen. Your friend really should be making time for you though, but if she’s that enraptured with this guy, then your protests will be largely in vain. It’s annoying, but take this as an opportunity to go spend time with your other friends and get to know them better.
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