Laura asks :
Hi Lucy,
A couple of months ago my best friend asked me out, I said no, because we had a really good friendship that I didn’t want to break. But now I really like him. But the problem is that he likes another girl. I have told him about my feelings already. What should I do..??
Our Reply
Hi Laura,
It sounds like you are both mixed up about your feelings right now. If you didn’t like him but now you do and he liked you but now doesn’t, it may be that what you both experienced was an infatuation.
If neither of you is certain about your feelings then perhaps it’s time to go your separate ways, see other people and maintain your friendship.
If he knows about your feelings now and has no perused them that could mean that he has moved on and wants to stay as friends.
If you are intent on pursuing this then perhaps tell him about your feelings again, so he knows that you are serious. He might have thought that you were fooling around before or just saying it back to please him.
If you do decide to get together then it may be worth setting some ground rules down so if it doesn’t work out that you can still maintain some of what you had before. It will never be exactly the same if you break up, depending on the circumstances, but if you break up mutually simply because you are better as friends then you should be able to salvage most of what you once had.
Lucy x
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