Lorna desmier asks :
Hiya I'm 28 and got 2 children I've been in a relationship for the past few months its starting to get to the point where we both want to spend more time with each other but my mum refuses to acknowledge him which hurts!! My mum hates me taking MY children up to his and yet she refuses to babysit if ask her and yet when my sister ask her to babysit she jumps at the chance!! I love this guy how do I get my mum to understand how I'm feeling?
Yin replies
Your Mum is being protective as she is probably thinking of how it will affect your children. She may be thinking further down the line if you and this guy don’t make it how a break up will affect them. If you are certain that this is a strong relationship then bonds need to be made. By seeing him, your children are not seeing their grandmother, which is affecting them also as they need all the support and family around them as they can. Try and explain it to her in this way, that you shouldn’t have to choose, the more people that can be there for your children the better.
Yang replies
Do you have other people that you trust with your children? If so perhaps they could look after them for you while you spend more time with your new man? Your mother will soon get the message that you are keen to make this work. The longer you’re together the stronger the relationship will get and the quicker your mother will realise that you are serious about each other and therefore a strong unit in which to bring your children up in. If you are happy with this guy it will shine through and you will be a much better Mother for your children when you feel settled.
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