Married Man

13 April 2007

melanie asks :

I have got involved with a married man and now i dont know what to do. We talked about what could go wrong and both knew the risks, we slept together the other day and all was well until that night when we were secretly talking on the phone. We managed to get disconnected so i rang back only to realise that he was at home he agreed to call me later which he did but by text saying he could not talk at the moment but would try later. I am certain his wife has found out but he has not contacted me he is not answering my texts i need to know what is going on. What should i do?

Yin replies

I think you should leave things be. If the reason he isn't contacting you is because his wife has found out, then continuing to contact him could merely make things worse. Wait for a while, and see if when things have calmed down he contacts you. It may only be to tell you that he can't see you any more, or maybe the complete opposite. You have to respect though that he is tied to this other woman by marriage, and you wouldn't want to be responsible for assisting to break something up that he could, in the long run, regret. Maybe you should move on hun.

Yang replies

I think you've done enough damage for now. You say that you and this man talked about the risks, as if that makes them go away?! You should have thought to your self, this man is married, and it is morally wrong of me to be intimate with him. There is no excuse for this adultery you have both committed, and I think you need to seriously think about your actions and their implications. Leave him alone, if there is any chance of him making ammends with his wife then I am sure that he will be doing everything in his power to do so, and doesn't need the added complication of you nagging him as well. Do every one a favour and find a single man!