Rachel asks :
For the last few weeks I've been on a course and hanging out a lot with this cute guy who seems very funny and witty. He teases and flirts with me a lot, and we became very close, with him even confiding about a pregnancy scare he had last year. He flirted a lot with another girl though, so much so that on the last night of the camp I jokingly advised him to use protection if he and this other girl had sex. He told me that the other girl actually had a boyfriend, and I asked him if he had a girlfriend. He admitted he was 'guilty as charged'. I felt humiliated and embarassed to have been strung along, so I told him he had acted like a dick and ignored him for the rest of the night and the following day. Did I overreact? I still like him and can't help feeling he might have been flirting so much with me because he is planning to end his relationship - we are both headed to the same university this autumn.
Yin replies
If he were to leave this girl for you, how do you know that he will not do the same behind your back? After all he was flirting with you and another girl at the same time. It would seem he is putting the feelers out to see what other girls there are to offer. The reason you like him so much is because he flirted with you, which is fun bit also manipulative. If he was thinking about leaving her then he would have said so, given his frank conversation to you about other personal matters to let you know he was on offer.
Yang replies
Don’t be the other girl and cause him to break up with his girlfriend as this is not fair nor would you want it to happen to you. University is the time to experiment and have fun with your friends, relationships don’t often last while you are there and prevent you from having the best experience you can. Leave this guy alone to be friends with and see what else there is to offer when you get there, chances are you will forget all about him!
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