Sophie asks :
Hi , my relationship with my boyfriend ended over a year ago , we was apart from 5months & then decided to get back together but it didnt work out so we parted again but recently found out i am 6months pregnant to him, i havent told him about it because he isnt interested in the two year old we have now.. But i keep feeling like i should tell him and see if we can work things out for the 3rd time but at the same time ano it would be wrong of me to go back there and it wouldnt be fair on the children to see us splitting up if it didnt work out. i dont want my youngest to go through what my little girl did but i dont want to be alone? What am i ment to do ?
Yin replies
Yin / Tyler
Lucy says:
People often stay together for the sake of the children, which is noble, but surely the example you would want to set for your children is to be happy, even if it means being alone for a while until you find someone you can be stable with. If it has failed 2 times already, do you think another child will be the bond you are looking for? He is the father so he does have a right to know, however if he is not going to make an effort with a new baby as he has not with your other child, then this is not a good father for your children. Of course you don’t want to be alone, noone does especially if there are children involved to support. You seem to have already answered your question; you say you know it will be wrong for you, so it sounds like you have already made up your mind. Get the support you need from family and friends to help you through and look for someone who will be there for you and the children. You both need stability in your lives to be able to move on and be content.
Yang replies
Yang / Lydia
Cameron says:
Drawing from personal experience, staying together for the kids is never the right thing to do. One joyful and fulfilled parent is much better than two sullen and cold ones. You need to tell him he’s the father, but if he’s not interested in the child you already have together, then another child isn’t going to mend those fences. He doesn’t sound like he’s ever going to want children. Don’t try and work things out for a third time, there’s clearly something not right in the relationship if it keeps breaking down. Stability is key for children, so get a network around you that you can trust and build from there.
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