Angelina asks :
Hi Lucy, I recently moved in with a few of my friends including one guy mate. At the start he was very flirty and touchy but I never really clocked onto it, anyway as I got to know him better I really started to develop strong feelings for him. Inevitably we ended up hooking up once and then once again but only kissing. On the second occasion we went to have sex and he stopped and said I really want to but I can't I asked him if it was performance troubles as we were both quite drunk but he said it wasn't. Since then he's just been very hot and cold and I really can't work him out at all and it's driving me crazy! Thankyou for your help xxx
Our Reply
Hi Angelina, thanks for getting in touch.
Perhaps try talking to him about it. There are not many men that stop just as they are about to a have sex without a good reason for doing so. It could be a performance issue, it could be that he has a girlfriend that you don’t know about, it could be any number of reasons. If you ask him where you stand then at least you will know and can move on if he is not interested or take things from there if he is.
Men are very sensitive about bedroom performance, whatever the reason for the sex not happening, so try not to be negative when you talk about what happened, just that you want to know why, as this will drag his confidence down. He said himself that he wanted to have sex with you but whether or not he wants a relationship is something you will need to find out. Him blowing hot and cold is likely down to embarrassment, so the more at ease you can make him feel when you do see him, the better!
Good luck,
Lucy x
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