HG asks :
Hi Lucy,
I went to this party 2 nights ago where I barely knew many people with a few of my friends. There were a lot of guys there. They seemed to want to tell me that I was dead pretty/ fit, but this one guy took particular interest in me. He spoke to me at the start of the night; then kept dancing with me. We kissed a few times, but I kept the kisses short because there were many people around. Later on, some girls asked who we were and he (the guy I kissed) shouted out "That's *(my name)*. I love her!!" about me. He said it in a jokey way and he had been drinking a bit. When we were kissing the last time I said I felt a bit unfair on my ex-boyfriend (I don't really feel unfair on him, I don't know why I said it!! I am definitely over him!!) and he replied and said "It can just be a one night thing" - he didn’t mean it to take advantage of me as I sort of know him and he's really kind. Do I like him?! More importantly.. does he like me?! Thank you!
Our Reply
Hi HG,
If he offered up the ‘one night’ option, then chances are that is all it meant to him. If were taking about your ex so soon into your intimate moment- it might have scared him away, which could be why he retaliated with what he did.
Be mindful that if you have only just broken up with your boyfriend, you might be more inclined to seek out another guy right away to try and help you forget about your ex. So think long and hard about whether you do actually like him or he is a rebound.
If you do feel like you could like him then perhaps suggest meeting up when neither of you are drunk for a date so you can talk. Drink can make you say some strange things and act in ways you wouldn’t normally- so try to get to know him better when you are both sober. You should get a better idea of if he likes you when you ask him out- if he’s interested, he should go along with it, if not then that’s his chance to tell you that he just wants to stay friends.
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