Freddie asks :
Hi Lucy,
I'm so confused by this guy! Basically, I'm sort-of met this guy at the church. He regularly says hi to me and when I'm not there he constantly asks my mum about me. Even my Mum thinks he likes me (he even told her I was sweet), but whenever I'm around he ignores me or says one word to me. Maybe it's because I run away after services and meetings, but I'm an awkward teenager. What should I do? He's always with people or busy when I'm around. Is he into me?
Our Reply
Hi Freddie,
Often men show their affections for someone by ignoring them or teasing them. It’s game that starts in the school playground when there are boys who have crushes on girls, but won’t admit it, so try and fool everyone into thinking that the don’t by pushing them away.
It could be this or that he is embarrassed to talk to you if you have got wind that he might be attracted to you. He may just be asked you mum out of politeness and saying hi to be nice, but it could be that he likes you and is too afraid to approach.
Why not ask him out? If he is being shy then you might need to be the bolder one of the two and ask him on a date. If you don’t and you do like him then you might be left wondering ‘what if?’ If you run away after services and meetings this might give him the impression that you are not interested, so perhaps make the effort to stick around and talk to him and give him some signals that you like him back. If he is always with people try and take him to one side or ask him to help you with something that is away from other people to get some alone time.
Lucy x
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