Hi Lucy,

As a rule of thumb, men tend to tease women they have a crush on to cover up their true feelings- its playground politics that sometimes extend to their later life.

He may just be a generally flirty person and you are around him at work so you get to see him turn on the charm a lot.

If he wanted to make the effort then I would guess that he would add you on Facebook and text you. The absence of this would suggest that he is in this to get as much attention from you as possible and enjoy some suggestive banter- perhaps without the promise of anything more.

I you really want to find out what’s going on you could just ask him and tell him his behaviour is confusing you, or why he hasn’t contacted you outside of work. You don’t have to make it a serious thing but can slip it into conversation in a jokey way and gauge his reaction.

This guy could have an out of sight out of mind mentality- while you are at work it makes it more fun to flirt with you- but when he has other things to do then it might slip his mind.

Try not to hang all your hopes on this and enjoy the flirting game- if you feel like he is leading you on with no hope of anything else, then tell him to stop.