Alice asks :

Hi Lucy,

I have been with my boyfriend for over two years. I been with him throughout university having met him at the beginning. He finished last year and returned home, so we've been apart for the year, but made it work and will be moving back myself soon after my exams. However, we recently have been arguing constantly. I don't feel I see him enough, and he wants more space and nights out. Part of the problem may be due to the fact he kissed another girl 6 months into the relationship and I have difficulty trusting people anyway due to my past. He found it got too much and broke it off over text. But when I returned he wanted to see me and get back together. I wasn't sure what to do, but wanted him back, it was rushed so I said I'd see him later (in which I was going to take him back). But he never turned up so I was very angry and upset. We were both angry and he asked to meet me out, but I said I didn't want to see him again. I rang him later that night and due to a gut feeling, questioned him a lot. He eventually admitted kissing another girl. I'm distraught, even though it wasn't quite cheating. Now, it's still me that just wants to be with him. But he seems unsure which hurts even more. He admitted he sometimes misses being single and gets scared as we're getting older, so to stay together for a long time could be serious and he might be missing out. I don't know what to do, I'm hurt that he so easily kissed another girl and doesn't seem to regret it. I don't feel good enough as he'd rather be with random girls. But I still just want to be happy with him and go back in time. I don't know if too much has happened. Please help.