Sarah asks :
Hi Lucy,
My boyfriend of 6 months finished with me out of the blue last week. Everything seemed fine, more than fine actually. He had recently told me he loved me and had never felt so happy and he could see a future for us. He was always loving towards me and never let me down. Why the sudden change of heart? I'm left feeling heart broken and confused. I would love someone else's perspective! Thanks Sarah x
Hi Sarah,
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Sometimes when people know that their relationship is not going to plan, they say things like this to try and convince themselves that it is. Maybe he said such things to try and change his mind, put if he felt differently inside then maybe he couldn’t pretend anymore.
The first six months of a relationship can be very hot and heavy with the honeymoon period acting like a smokescreen and it could be that after all the excitement and newness had settled down that he felt that it had run its course.
Did you talk much after the break up? Perhaps it might help if you ask him why he seemed so positive in the relationship and then acted in the opposite way. This might help you to get the closure you need and be able to move on. If not then you might always be wondering why his words didn’t match his actions.
Or perhaps he was just confused and you might not want to go back there, in which case it might be time to try and move on and look for a guy who means what he says.
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