Zoe asks :
Hi Lucy,
I split up with my son’s dad nearly a year ago, we have both since moved on but I'm still madly in love with him and would do anything and everything to have him back. I know deep down that he still has feelings for me but he won't give me the time of day to speak to him about us. I just want him back so that I can show him how sorry I am and how much I love him and want us all to be a family again. His mother wants us to be together again and hates his new girlfriend just as much as I do. How can I gain his trust again that so I can get him back and show him how much I love him? This is breaking my heart to shreds and has been for nearly two months now. I can't let go of what we had, he means too much to me, please help me.
Our Reply
Hi Zoe,
It seems that you are on good terms with his mother- could she speak to him for you one last time to see if there are any feelings left? Or try and arrange a truce between you both?
Why have these feelings arisen now when you have been broken up for a year? Does it coincide with the time he got with his new girlfriend? Perhaps you are having a hard time accepting that he has moved on and that is why it hurts now more than ever.
Could you come to some sort of agreement whereby he will give you the time of day and be amicable around one another? Arrange a meeting just him and you to talk things through for the sake of your son, even if nothing more? That way you could explain how much you still love him?
Whatever you decide it is perhaps best that you get to the point of being in the same room together to make things easier on your son for the future.
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