Alexandra asks :
Hello Lucy,
My name is Alexandra, I would like to ask for your advice on how to deal with the people you don't like spreading rumours about you behind your back. The ones that I hear more often are that ‘I threatened to burn down the house of somebody I don't like after an argument’ and that ‘I am a lesbian’, which I am not, please reply.
Our Reply
Hi Alexandra,
Rumours can be hurtful and frustrating at times, however if you react to them, often this can make people spread them further and make a bigger deal out of what they have already sent out into the public domain.
I would suggest that perhaps you try to ignore the things that are said about you and eventually people will get bored when they see it’s not affecting you anymore. Something else will come along to divert their attention away from you. As long as you and your close friends and family know the truth then that is all that matters.
Try to remember that people who start these rumours are just trying to take the attention off themselves, so really it’s not about you it’s more about them and their current state of mind. Chances are something is going on in their own lives that they are trying to forget about or preventing other people finding out about.
People like this are not worth getting worried over and their words are just a weak attempt to make themselves feel better for a while.
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