juanita asks :
I am a 42 yr female, married to my hubby whom i fell n love with and no one else, (with two kids. A devoted wife, n mother For the last few yrs i feel there has been a lot of turmoil n oour marital life, i am constantly angry with my spouse... Hurt, ignored etc.. He has been busy with his life in work stressed and all... I feel therevs a grt rift and cant seem to close it... I feel we have just drifted apart.. In fact we dont fight even.. But today took the cake, he questioned me as to why i allowd our gym trainer to enter our vbedroom actually thevtrainer came to chk on my husband who was sick...i am confused as to were this is leading too... I love my hubby very much. I dread each waking day. ?.
Yin replies
If this has been going on for years then it would seem that there is little left you can do to recapture what you had. If you dread each waking day then this is no way to live. Have you talked to him about how you are feeling; he may be so busy that he has not picked up on the fact that you are hurting. How would he react if he knew that you dread each day with him? If you were honest with him things might change.
Yang replies
The incident with the gym trainer could mean that he was worried perhaps that something was going on between you two and that you are showing an interest in a another man and not him. This is a positive sign that he is showing jealousy, if he really didn’t care about you anymore then he would not have reacted. If you are feeling this way, chances are he is too. Noone likes to have more stress at home after a stressful day at work and if what you had in your early days of marriage was strong, he will likely want to rekindle that too.
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