lizzy asks :
I have feelings for my daughters boyfriend. He knew before they got together that i fancied him but he only wanted to be friends. We txt each other everyday which my daughter knows as me n him have become best friends. Now we r sexting everyday n flirting with each other . I think things may go further
Our Reply
If your daughter finds out about this you could jeopardise what you have with her, by continuing with the sexting and the flirting, you are seriously putting your relationship with her at risk.
Even if he leaves your daughter and things potentially go further with you, the situation would be difficult to say the least. If your daughter found it in her to forgive you and tried to accept you being together living in the same house would be awkward and inappropriate. The chance of this is very slim anyway. I would suggest stopping this immediately and not pursuing anymore messages that you receive after you inform him that this needs to stop. If your daughter doesn’t find out about this, then things may be salvageable and forgotten, however if she does, even if you stop now, she will still be extremely hurt.
His reaction is not predictable, he might decide to tell her and come clean. He clearly doesn’t care much for your daughter if he is doing this behind her back, so perhaps questions if he is good enough for her at all.
Texting her boyfriend every day is not generally something that is considered commonplace, however if your daughter knows and thinks it’s ok then that is fine, but I’m sure if she knew about the nature of the messages then she might change her mind.
Try to eliminate any more damage and stop in your tracks before you split your family apart.
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