matt asks :
i have been going out with my girlfriend for about 2 years now and she has lost someone who was really close to her but now its made her different she wont tell me she loves me no more because she says they people she loves leaves her and she has told one of her close mates she wants to end he life before someone elce she knows dies. i have tried to talk to her but when i do she just changes the subject i dont no what i can do to help her but i need to do it before she hurts herself.
Yin replies
Hello Matt, thanks for writing in.
It sounds like you have tried to talk to her about this and that you have been there for her as much as you can but if she changes the subject then this leaves you little option. I would suggest that you give her some options for help. Her doctor is a great place to start; she may need a session of counselling to be able to talk through her problems in an unbiased atmosphere with someone who is not as close as you. They can refer her on to get the necessary help she needs or even prescribe her some anti-depressants to support her while she undergoes her sessions.
The Samaritans is a great place for her to call for free and talk for as long as she needs to someone who is out of the loop and will simply listen. They are open 24/7 and so if she is having a rough time at an unsociable hour, then there will be someone she could call.
Yang replies
You can get her to make a list of people who she might contact if she is feeling really low, friends and family as well as organisations like The Samaritans, who she must promise she will call if she is having a real low point.
If you think she is in real danger of hurting herself then you can by law call the social services. Under the Mental health act of 1983, a person can be treated without their consent. Depending on how seriously she is suffering this may result in her being kept in hospital for a while until she is better.
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