Kisha asks :
Hi Lucy,
2 years ago I found out that my so-called boyfriend was married and had two kids. When I did ask at the beginning of the relationship he had told me that he had no children and no kids he lied about his name, age, marital status and kids. What should I do as I have children with him also?
Our Reply
Hi Kisha,
These are undoubtedly very big lies to tell someone that you are in a relationship with. Have you asked him why he felt the need to lie about them?
You found out this information 2 years ago- so perhaps you are writing in because this is something that you can’t forgive or get over? If this is still plaguing you then you could try couples’ counselling to explore ways to help you build up your trust for him again. That said, if you have struggled to over the last two years it could mean that you could never get past the lies.
It all depends if you feel there is a small part of you that can trust him again. If not then perhaps you need to come up with a plan to both be there for your children, but live your lives separately and find someone who will be honest with you right from the beginning.
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