Hi S,

If they can see your frustration then this is likely why they persist in offending you. People get a rise out of a reaction and so keep doing it. Try to contain your frustration when they do this by writing your feelings down in a diary or going and do some exercise at the gym or talk to your family about it. Showing your frustration in front of them shows that what they are saying to you is pushing your buttons and some people get a kick out of this response. Plus if you do get frustrated in front of them, chances are you won’t be able to express your feelings clearly.

Once you have handled the frustration then this could be the time to approach. If they are supposed to be you friends then perhaps ask them why they are treating you this way. Gossip can fly in a big group as to why people are reacting towards other members the way they are. Perhaps talk to them together and ask them why their behaviour has changed towards you. If you have done anything to offend them; be the bigger person and apologise and then give them your side of the story.  

Friends shouldn’t really treat you this way, so if you ask them and they have no reason for offending you then perhaps you need to tell them to stop speaking to you like this or find some new friends.