Hi Planetmog,

There is nothing wrong with wanting a new start. Many people take this option when they want to make a fresh life for themselves.

If you have lived with your mother or near her for many years, then it will come as a shock and she might feel vulnerable without you around as much. Do you have other family or friends who can look in on her so you know she is doing ok?

I would suggest that if you make a commitment to her you stick to it. If every two weeks is going to be too much- then say every month. She will look forward to seeing you- so if you aim too high and are not able to make it, she will probably be disappointed.

When you do meet up try to make it for a lengthy period of time and do something with your day or weekend, rather than for an hour for a cup of tea. It is likely that you will miss her too so it important to invest in that quality time.

You can still give each of the people in your life your time and attention- it just might take a different form now when it comes to your mum. Why not ring her regularly, or email, write her a letter, all these little gestures will help so you don’t feel as far away from one another emotionally and physically.