Hi Molly,

It sounds like you want the time you spent and your connection together to be more greatly acknowledged, having been together for so long.

It is admirable that you have both striven to maintain a friendship after your break up as not many people can achieve this with an ex.

Have you spoken to her about this? You say you ‘feel’ like you can’t talk to her about it, but have you actually tried? 2 years is a long time out of each of your lives, to brush under the carpet. Talking about the good times you shared will perhaps reinforce why you are still friends now and help you to realise why you were not compatible as a couple.

It may have been that she was with you to explore her feelings and her sexuality. It is natural to feel a little duped if she now has no interest in girls. That said, the time she spent with you was unique. It is something that she will likely not experience again, so what you had was truly special. It likely helped her to realise her true self. Although it may seem hurtful now, your contribution to her life greatly enhanced her awareness of herself.

Maybe try to help her realise that your friendship now is about give and take. There is nothing wrong with feeling anger after a break up, it might be that you have not expressed how you are really feeling about the break up and need to tell her how her behaviour has made you react. She might be clearer about what she wants but your break up has left you in a different place, so it might make you feel better if she takes the time out to acknowledge your emotions.