C asks :
Hi Lucy,
Was it wrong of me, not to wait for my ex before I went getting involved with someone else?
Hi C,
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If you are asking if it was wrong to move on before your ex- the only answer I can give is that people move on at different rates and if you happen to have found another person before them- then it sounds like you were just ready for another relationship sooner.
If they need more time- then that is their decision as people process break ups in all sorts of time frames.
All I would say to you is make sure that you are ready to move on and not just entering into another relationship as a means of getting over your break up. A new lover is not going to mend you if you are not over your previous partner- this you need to do on your own.
If you had an agreement to get back together- then this may have come as a surprise to your ex if it is not the joint decision you made. If you are seeing someone else then perhaps your heart wasn't in getting back together or giving things another go. All I would say is if you feel you don't want to go back there, be clear with your ex as it might have hurt them to see you with someone new if they were hoping for a second chance.
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