Should I leave my wife?

by Lucy Moore | 19 August 2014

Hi Lee,

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Perhaps the thought of being with this other woman, has given you a taste of what it would be like to be in that exciting, honeymoon phase of a relationship again. If you have had even a sense of this it might have made you look less favourably upon your relationship with your wife.

Perhaps you could benefit from some relationship counselling. If you are feeling this down about your marriage then perhaps she is too and maybe you could work together to try and make it through to the other side.

It makes perfect sense that you still love her but are perhaps not in love with her- people do fall out of love but still value their partners as a parent and a companion. Some marriages work by staying together with a mutual acceptance that there is no longer any romance left, and some work just as well apart.

Perhaps you need to talk to your wife and gauge where she is at before you decide what step to make next.

In terms of this other women, if she will not leave her family, then if you were to split up from your wife you might face some time as a single man- how does that prospect make you feel?

If you are unhappy then it might be because neither of you have tried to keep the relationship alive or it might be that it has simply run its course, but you likely won’t know until you express how you feel to your wife. Chances are, she already knows that you are not as happy as you once were and might be prepared for you to talk about where you go from here.

 

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by Lucy Moore for relationships.femalefirst.co.uk
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