Hi Edey,

It sounds like you are torn between what you want and what you think is the right thing to do.

If your friend wanted to go to the concert but couldn’t because of the cost, this is out of your control. She might be upset and angry at the situation; however this will pass in time. You are not responsible for her lack of money to be able to do things like this.

If you really want to go then that shouldn’t hold you back. If you were in her position would you be happy for her and encourage her to still go? Would she be as sensitive to your feelings?

All I would say is that if she asks you; tell her how it was but try not to be over excited and make this your main topic of conversation for the next few months. There is one thing being genuinely happy about an event in your life, but another when you lose all perspective and talk about nothing else.

Be mindful that she couldn’t go and talk about it tactfully afterwards.