Belle asks :
Hi Lucy,
I cheated on my boyfriend of 2 years with an old school friend when my relationship was going through a tough time. Since then I have not had any contact with the old friend and my relationship is back on track. Now the old friend is asking questions and trying to speak to me. Should I tell my boyfriend what happened?
Hi Belle,
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Perhaps ask yourself; if the situation was reversed would you want to know? If the answer is ‘yes’ then you could extend him the same courtesy you would expect for yourself.
If your relationship was going through a tough time then maybe you can justify why you strayed to him. He may not have cheated but perhaps the thought ran through his mind, if he was feeling down about the relationship too.
If you want this other guy out of your life then maybe tell him that you no longer want to see him anymore. If you don’t tell your boyfriend then he might out of jealousy or resentment for not talking to him- it’s probably best coming from you.
If you don’t tell your man do you think it is something your can keep under your hat in the long term, or will it always be an issue for you? If you think he will understand then maybe talk to him about it.
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