sofia asks :
dear anne , i am very sad , last week i got mad with my bff , then i talked to her , she said we are ok and every day she looks so weard , shes not the same any more.. i miss her so much . People say i have to talk to her but i keep doing it and it doesnt work, she says shes the same and shes not... please help me :(
Yin replies
Hello Sofia, thanks for writing in.
The people in your life are right to advise you to talk to her as this is the only way you can explain your case and make amends.
After fall outs, it does take time to get back to normal, however if your friendship is strong you will survive it, you just need to give her time to realise that she misses you as much as you do her.
Yang replies
If talking is not the right thing at the moment perhaps try writing a letter to her. This way you won’t forget what you want to say and you can edit if you don’t like what you have put down. Although they are classed as an old fashioned way to communicate now, they hold a lot of meaning because you have taken the time out to put your thoughts down for the sake of someone else’s feelings.
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