Hi Brideen,

It goes unsaid that when a man and women marry it is unacceptable that either party sends sexually explicit pictures to another man or women outside of the relationship. Unless the couple have an agreement with one another in the relationship that states this is acceptable.

If you have never discussed these boundaries then perhaps talk to him about it. It might be worth seeking out some couple’s counselling to talk through why he feels the need to seek sexual gratification elsewhere and why are you are not getting on right now.

It sounds like he may not have cheated on you- it might be all about the pictures, which would suggest that he still has some loyalty to you, so you might still have a basis to work through this if that is what you want.

If this is something that you feel strongly about or something that you are not willing to try and work on, or something that he is not willing to give up then it might be time to look for someone who will not look elsewhere for sexual satisfaction.